My husband and I have been married for ten years. We are in our early sixties and my step-daughter is in her mid thirties. Every 3-4 months she comes up with another illness, always with elaborate consequences, such as she can't lift more than ten pounds, can't drive, sleeps all day, etc. She's on methodone for chronic fatigue. The complaints never end, yet, I have seen her running, and driving. I think she is making it up all for her father's attention. Her father believes her. Herein lies the problem, and in the end I'm the one with no sympathy for her or him. This has caused a few problems in our marriage and I've had enough. Is it okay for me to ask my husband not to talk to me about all her latest illnesses, or what do you suggest?
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